How does it feel falling in love unconditionally?
The other day, I asked my mother how she goes past all the little imperfections my dad has. And her answer was so simple, she said that she learned how to love them.
People are not perfect. People are imperfect. That is what makes us distinct from one another. That is why we are unique. We learn how to live with our imperfections. We find an imperfect other to love and live with our imperfections as well as we love and live with theirs.
Everyone can love unconditionally. You just haven’t found the one, yet. What exactly does it mean to love unconditionally? Well, the trick lies in accepting your partner for whoever he or she is.
This little trick is also called adulthood or unconditional relationship. You fall in love and despite every flaw, mistake or silly idea your partner has, you learn how to live with them and not judge everything they say or everything they want.
Regardless of age, it’s all about the respect and support you give each other without expecting something in return. To be more specific – you don’t value your partner for the job they have or the car they drive, and the apartment they live in. But instead, you value them for the mutual support and the empathy you two share.
You don’t fall in love just because your partner plays very good football, and you love football. You don’t fall in love because your partner is good at playing the piano and you love classical music. You fall in love because no matter what your partner does, you see them as a friend and as a lover. You don’t fall in love for the sole benefit of them as means to some end, but you see them as end-goal.
When you love someone, it’s not just about accepting their flaws, but learning how to live with them. For example, if your partner treated you wrong or said something that you didn’t like, you should try and understand where that behavior came from. You realize where it went wrong and you both work for better communication.
When you fall in love with someone, you care deeply for them. You don’t make the relationship hard. Instead, you both enjoy each other’s company. You can’t wait until you speak again and listen to each other’s stories.
Moreover, unconditional love means unconditional support and encouragement. You want to see them succeed because that’s what they want. You are there for each other in any way possible. You two support each other in the decisions you bring and the choices you make. You encourage each other into pursuing dreams and hopes.
Of course, if they are about to make a mistake, you help them choose the right direction in life. That is, after all, supporting and standing up for your partner. If you are open and honest with each other, your relationship will bloom. You will build a beautiful future together and grow within your unique unconditional love.
Wait for the one you’re going to love unconditionally. Wait for the one you’re going to love with all the imperfections within them. If you found them, then love every bit of them and enjoy every minute you spend together.
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