Have you ever wondered why nice guys ‘finish last’? Why seemingly bad and irresponsible men get the girl, and the responsible ones keep getting their hearts broken? Well, it’s not that difficult, we’re breaking it all down.
BAD GUYS TEND TO HAVE AUTHENTIC CONFIDENCE
Fake confidence puts women on the edge. Authentic confidence makes them feel a deep attraction. The bad boy’s confidence is natural, deep, and internal rather than fake, shallow and contrived.
The natural, authentic, solid, powerful confidence can’t be faked, and shows you believe in yourself and where you’re going. Women tend to find it very attractive in a man.
BAD BOYS HAVE AN ATTRACTIVE BODY LANGUAGE
A bad boy’s body language shows confidence. He doesn’t slouch or communicate with insecurity, unsure of himself, or afraid of women or caring about what anyone thinks.
His body language is proportional to his natural and confident mindset.
BAD BOYS ARE NOT AFRAID OF REJECTION
They do things with purpose because they are not worried about what might happen, what she’ll think or how she’ll react. And if it doesn’t go as intended, the bad boy doesn’t make it a big deal.
Nice guys on the other hand could act awkward, and are afraid to take risks. The fear of rejection holds them back.
The bad boy isn’t afraid of rejection and does anything that he wants to, and it ends up working for him. If she’s attracted to you she doesn’t mind, and even likes it when you’re assertive and aren’t scared to take things to the next level with her.
BAD BOYS DON’T NEED APPROVAL
Bad boys wake up in the morning and live their lives to make themselves happy. You may think It’s a little self-centered lifestyle, but that’s okay to them. Like they say, “a little self-centeredness is more attractive than trying to please everyone”
Bad boys are not always focused on making women happy and seeking their approval. Sometimes, they don’t even care whether or not they have the approval of their family & friends.
As long as they approve of themselves, that’s all that matters. And somehow, women tend to fall for this attitude.
BAD BOYS DON’T FEEL SORRY FOR THEMSELVES
Bad boys don’t allow themselves to become victims and they don’t feel sorry for themselves when bad things happen, instead, they adapt and overcome. The bad boys could suck it up, act like a man, push through it and move on. They find crying, whining, and complaining is weak, unattractive, and less effective than dealing with the problem and moving forward.
When going through tough times Instead of being the victim, make a conscious decision to adapt overcome, take the high road and deal with it.
BAD BOYS ARE HONEST TO A FAULT
A bad boy says what is on his mind, and tells you how it is, whether you like it or not. Bad boys are better at looking a woman in the eyes and being brutally honest because they believe It’s better to upset her with honesty than with lies. She may not like the truth, but she’ll trust and respect you because of your honesty.
BAD BOYS ARE ‘FULL OF THEMSELVES’
Some nice guys are full of self-doubt, self pity and they hold a negative image of themselves in their mind. Bad boys value themselves and their mindset communicates, “I don’t tolerate disrespect of myself, time or property”.
They don’t put up with anyone trying to paint them in negative light. They value their behaviour, mindset and aren’t going to let anyone mess that up for them.
Most women are far more attracted to a bad boy who values himself and knows his place in the world.
BAD BOYS PURSUE WHAT THEY WANT
Bad boys don’t think “Man I wish I could talk to that girl… she’s hot or “Man I wish I could date her ” … They skip the self-talk and actually do it.
The bad boy gets outside of his comfort zone and goes after what he wants. If he wants her number he gets it, if he wants to see her again, he tells her.
He gets over his insecurities and makes it happen. When he wants something, nothing stands his way.
Develop the same mindset – when you want something , take action. Don’t allow your thoughts and fearstop you. Make the decision and move toward it ASAP.
BAD BOYS DON’T GET PLAYED
“Played” means getting your heart broken because you’re too blind or inexperienced to see what’s actually going on.
Bad boys have experience with women. They know the game and don’t fall for the same trick, games and excuses as the nice guys. They know when something isn’t right.
Bad boys who attract a lot of women are smart, experienced, know what they want, and are able to spot nonsense from a mile away.
BAD BOYS DON’T’ ACT SOFT
Bad boys don’t seek approval by apologising for everything. It’s either women like them or they don’t. And either ways, they’re fine with it.
Be comfortable in your own skin and stop apologising for who you are and what you don’t really do wrong.
BAD BOYS LEAVE HER WANTING MORE
The bad boy causes a woman to fall madly in love, and then leaves them wanting more for years and years to come.
He doesn’t milk the date until it’s dry, stay on the phone until she’s bored, give her everything she wants or tells her how much he likes her too soon.
They give her just enough but not everything she wants. This multiplies the attraction and intensifies her desire. If a woman leaves first, it’s a sign you’re giving away too much too soon.
BAD BOYS BREAK RULES
Not all bad boys break the law and you don’t have to go to jail or prison to prove you have the bad guy mentality.
Since bad boys do whatever they want, they usually aren’t fond of rules and laws. They are not idiots , they’re not just fond of the rules. They don’t like being told what to, when to do it, and how to do it because it feels like being a slave to society.
Some think following rules to a fault is a cowardly way to live and some rules are meant to be broken.
BAD BOYS HANDLE THEIR PROBLEMS
Bad boys handle their problems and don’t let it go out of control.
Women want men who handle their problems instead of waiting until they become too much to handle.
In your own life, handle your problems immediately and don’t let them become worse. When problems arise, fix them right away and get rid of them.
BAD BOYS DON’T WORSHIP WOMEN
Bad boys don’t worship women and put them on pedestal. Their lives don’t revolve around getting women approval.
If you see her as better than you, or as of higher value than you, higher status than you, if you have already put her above you, you’ve lost. If you put women on a pedestal, you can’t attract them.
That’s why lots of women are attracted to the likes of Brad Pitt and James Bond etc. Some of those guys never take women seriously, and they don’t put them on such a high pedestal.
Women tend not to fall for the guys who act needy, treat her like an idol and do whatever she ask, in order to get her approval to like him (which of course, they sometimes don’t get).
This isn’t the bad boy’s mindset. He doesn’t spend time worrying to get women to like him. He knows he’s a badass, he just lives his life and when he’s around women, he is relaxed and has fun. If she likes him, cool. If not, no big deal.
Somehow, women find themselves falling for these bad guys trait.