Courtship Is Boring without Romance!!
Do you also feel courtship is boring without romance or sex?
I was never bored for 4 years?
This post is not saying you must have it long. Circumstances made my own long. Yours may not be this long.
I enjoyed my courtship! I was always expectant for what staying with this wonderful man 100 % will mean or hold for me. If you allow sex and romance in courtship.
There is nothing new in marriage sexually. Your man or woman may even desire a new taste! That is why adultery is increasing daily. Most singles already discovered every thing they need to discover sexually about their partner.
I enjoyed us going for church events together. I use to invite him for my church convention. He will invite me too for their programmes too. Also other social events like wedding and other family events, we can attend together. It was really interesting.
Most especially, we attended several marriage seminars together. We will laugh and laugh and learn together the way of God. It was a very interesting relationship.
He visited me at my office severally, we talk and talk and play together.
We studied Bible together. We prayed and fasted together often. Even when we were not in same location. We sent bible verses across to one another. And prayer and fasting dates. When we meet we discuss our revelation from the bible verses together.
Spiritually we enjoyed one another. Physically we enjoyed too.
Someone asked this: what can be the substitute for kissing and sex, in courtship?
Reply:
Courtship time is for knowing one another better before marriage. It is a time to build up in friendship too. It is a time to plan and discuss what the future home will be.
It is also a time to build one another spiritually too.
During courtship, prayers and bible studies can be done together, Christians programmes that will help their relationship can also be attended together.
Formal and informal outings can be attended together but they must be sure not to do anything that will push them into sexual sins.
Courtship time is for talking, don’t bottle up things that will generate problems in your future home.
So many young people are making excuses for their shortcomings in courtship, that, they don’t know what to talk about. And, as a result of that, the only thing that is available to do is romance and sex, which can damage their marital pursuit.
So many marriages are having problems today because they fail to talk the right thing while in courtship. They substitute their talking period for sex and other related acts. Fewer problems you will have in marriage if you have quality talking in courtship.
Naturally you will find out so many things about your partner as, you walk together, but you can discuss on issues that may arise in future to know what you both approve and reach a compromise on them. You can talk about your visions.
Some men believe that a woman must depend on them and must follow their own vision alone, right from courtship my hubby knows I have a call of God upon my life and both of us plan together how we can move our visions.
Discuss your goals and visions, talk about your backgrounds, your weakness, expected roles of both individuals in the marriage: His roles as husband and father and her roles as wife mother of your children.
Number of children, spacing child birth, spiritual beliefs, church to attend, involvement of in-laws and parental influence, health, friendship with opposite sex and same sex friendships, past life, dressing, outfits and outlooks, personal philosophies, type of financial account to keep, your carrier life in home, type of job to take up, base or location after marriage, living separately if situation warrant or call for it, and so many other things that could generate problems in future.
You cannot end these in courtship, it will always come up. They are not definitely discussion for weeks or months, they will run through the courtship period. As situations and environment is bringing more up, discuss them and reach a compromise on them.
Other issues that may cause discouragement are:
emotional, spirituality, and physical maturity. These deals with ways we react and handle issues when they arise.
By Evang Kemi Longe
