So you’ve hatched a plan: this is the year you will get married and nothing’s going to get in the way. Well, what if I told you, you will not get married this year.
You say you’re totally and completely ready to get married, this is your time, and this is your year! In your enthusiasm to get married, you’ve got the tried and tested strategy in place. You’ve spoken to friends and family to find suitable matches for you. You’ve signed up to dating apps and you’re scheduling in as many marriage events as possible… So this is it!
What if I told you your plans are likely to fail? That your strategy is doomed and you can expect to be single for several years from now? Yes!
Here’s why you will not get married this year
When I ask single Muslims what they’re looking for in a spouse they tell me he or she should be generous, kind, loving and so on. Some even say they want ‘a nice wife’… ‘What’s wrong with that?’ I hear you ask… Well if asked, everyone would describe themselves as generous, kind and loving. So basically you’re describing everyone in the world, single, married or otherwise! Finding your soul mate will be like finding a needle in a haystack… Glup!
Let’s take the word ‘generous’. If you asked singles what it means to be generous they’d say someone who donates money regularly to good causes and they perhaps volunteer for fundraising events. Others might say generosity is the way people speak or think about others and assume the best in everyone.
‘Generous’ means different things to different people and it shows up in many ways in people’s lives. Be more specific-only then you will be able to spot your soulmate in a dense crowd of single Muslims.