Every girl wonders if her boyfriend is attracted to his female friends or if they’re indeed just friends. What do guys think of their female friends?
As someone who has had some serious trust issues and questions about what a boyfriend has thought about his female friends, I can tell you it sucks to wonder. That feeling just nags at you constantly, what do guys think of their female friends?
When she texts him you worry, when he is out with his friends, is she there? Whether there is a logical reason for your paranoia or not, it is always in the back of your head. You want to like her and trust her and trust him, but you wonder.
Why can’t you ask him what he thinks of his female friends?
First off, you can. You just have to be careful in your wording. Asking your boyfriend if he likes or is attracted to one of his female friends can be super risky. If they have a history, it is definitely worth a conversation. But do not accuse him of anything.
Sure, she might be attractive, but that doesn’t mean he sees her that way. Are you attracted to every decent looking guy in your life? Probably not. So give him that same benefit. You can tell him you are nervous based on your past or a vibe you got and just want to know the story between them without being accusatory.
What do guys think of their female friends?
Be prepared for some straight up honesty. You might not like what I tell you. In some case it will be reassuring, but in others it can keep you up at night. So be prepared for the truth about what guys think of their female friends.
1 She is hot. Yes, unless she is half ogre, he likely thinks her attractive. But that is no reason to worry or freak out. You can be attracted to someone without ever acting on it and without having actual romantic feelings.
Think. Joey thought Rachel, Monica, and Phoebe were attractive, but he didn’t have a relationship with all of them. Unless he is a cheater, he can think someone is hot without acting on it. I’m sure you do it all the time.
2 He doesn’t even notice. I hate to say guys are this clueless, but it is true. Some guys literally do not see some of their female friends that way. I mean don’t you have some guy friends you truly think of as a brother or one of the guys.
He may have female friends you are worried about, but he could be entirely clueless to them being attractive.
3 He has fantasized about them. Sorry to break it to you, but it is true. Just how many guys have fantasized about their elementary school math teacher, babysitter, and best friend’s mom, it has happened.
Again, this does not mean he is into her or has any urge to act out these fantasies. Just as I am not actually attracted to Jay from Modern Family, that doesn’t stop me from having weird dreams about him.
4 He gets turned on easily. Girlfriend or not, guys get turned on by women’s features, even women they shouldn’t be turned on by. One of his female friends may be wearing a low cut top. He doesn’t actually have to be attracted to her to be turned on by her cleavage.
And yes, that sucks. And for women we may be turned on by Ryan Reynolds shirtless, but that is unattainable, unless you’re Blake Lively. So having your guy turned on by someone who is actually in his life is scary. Just remember you trust him and that’s what matters.
5 He has thought about her before. There is definitely a chance he has thought about asking her out in the past. But once you came along, that thought likely left his mind.
For some reason, there is always some sort of history or tension between men and women that are friends. But that doesn’t mean that it means any thing now. Just because Ross and Rachel ended up together it doesn’t mean your BF and his best female friend will too.
6 His mind is weird. Women are not visually attracted to men the same way men are to women. We need passion or emotion or something to set it off, usually. But men’s minds turn every female around him into a sexual being.
As much as that seems sexist, it is sort of how their minds can work. So he may think of his female friends totally platonically, but his mind still reminds him that they are in fact women.
7 There is a reason they are friends. Whether he thinks of her as hot or not, there is a reason they are friends. Maybe they love the same music or they grew up together. Whatever it is, he thinks of her as a friend that supports him. Sometimes it doesn’t matter that she is female.
8 He doesn’t see her that way. Yes, maybe at one point he was attracted to her. Maybe when they met he was hitting on her. But over time that fades. If they are close friends and truly platonic, the attraction he once felt has likely subsided.
Since talking to her about bowel movements, chatting about her ex, and whatever else, he may truly just see her as friend. Try to keep your mind from wondering.
9 He depends on her. Some guys have sisters they go to for girl advice, and some guys have female friends. He may very well depend on his female friends for advice regarding you.
He may have learned a lot about women from his female friends because he wasn’t nervous to ask certain questions as he would be with someone he is dating. Before getting jealous, be thankful they made him a feminist.
10 They are honest. Women have a knack for being honest, sometimes brutally so. And some guys need that. Yes, they could go to their mother, but she might tell him that floral Hawaiian shirt works for him.
His female friends can be honest about his haircut, fashion sense, and date ideas. And they have a unique honesty and point of view that his male friends lack.