Fear Of Acceptance For A Relationship/Marriage
Will this man accept me, if he knows that I’m this? Will this lady accept me if she knows that I’m this? This is the song of some people, and has caused a lot of fear in their heart.
Sometimes it is a past bad history, sometimes it is the background, sometimes it is the health, and sometimes it is a physical feature of the body.
A sister once share with me that her breast has dropped as a young girl. She is still a virgin, but naturally as her breast starts developing it is sagging like women’s that has been used for breast feeding a baby. What can she do? Her heart was filled with fear. Who will accept her? was the thought of her heart. She was so worried!
A lot of people have one thing or the other that has kept them full of fear of the future about their marital life, most especially if it’s a situation that one cannot change.
From birth my eyes colour was brownish, and as I grew up I didn’t like it, I wished my eyeballs were white. I was so conscious of it. Not only that, I have a bold voice and when I talk my voice is bolder than an average lady. I didn’t even take note of this until people use to pass that comment. So many people have one thing or the other they don’t like about them selves.
But as I grew up, most especially in faith. I lost those feelings. I love everything about me. God created people with beauties. What someone lack is in another, what you have, is missing in another person. There is no perfect human.
Whatever condition you find yourself, you must accept your self and love yourself first. And if is a past occurrence that has caused a negative situation to your life, you must first forgive yourself if it was caused by your carelessness. You have to move on in life so you have to forgive yourself so far God has forgiven you.
One of the great sign you will know that a person is your marriage partner is acceptance.
There is someone God has given grace to marry you. Someone that will accept you the way you are. Whatever condition or situation, there will be grace for acceptance. That is why it is wrong for you to hide your situation for someone that wants to marry you. If he or she is really yours, there will be full acceptance.
A lot of people make mistake of disguising to be another thing and when their partner discover many things in marriage, the marriage will turn sour. Don’t hide anything from someone that wants to marry you.
I have seen crippled, blind, deaf and dumb marrying complete people of no ailments. And I have also seen complete people without any ailments stayed without marriage partner till old age. It is not one condition or physical looks or body feature that keeps people away from marriage. But inability to meet their grace partners. Sometimes, this is not ordinary.
I came from a polygamous family, not only that, my parents were separated when I met hubby. I asked him if he will be ready to fight with me and win. I shared my situations with him. And he did fought with me and we won.
God has a purpose for you! Not every man is prepared for you. Not every woman is prepared for you. Your own man will accept you the way you are. Your own woman will accept you the way you are. If you are a child of God, you have a future in the hand of God. He says:
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end. Jeremiah:29:11
All you need to do is to trust him!
God will settle you this year in the mighty name of Jesus!
