Throughout our lives we have a great number of friends. We meet them, get to know them and spend time with them, but are all of these people really our friends? Or are they just people you know and catch up with from time to time? Because, if we’re being honest, there’s a big difference between these people and our true friends, the ones we call every day and the ones that know us better than we know ourselves.
Our true friends are the people who know our every secret and who know us like the inside of their palm. They’re the first people you call when you’re happy and want to celebrate. But they’re also the first people you call when you’re feeling sad and need a shoulder to cry on.
Truth to be told, we probably don’t spend as much time with our friends like we use to but that’s just life. We get caught up in our work and home chores and we don’t see them as much as we would have wanted. But our true friends, the ones that really matter, don’t care about this. They’re perfectly fine with just hearing from us and when we do find the time to get together it’s as if no time has passed. We never lose touch with our true friends and no matter how often we see each other, every time we do, we have a blast.
But we’re not talking about this kind of friendship here, we’re here to talk about the people we call our friends but are actually our acquaintances. Friendships are hard to keep when we get older, especially because they’re a two-way street. If one person is trying hard to keep it alive while the other just can’t be bothered and never finds the time, there’s no point in pursuing it. If the other person doesn’t care as much, the friendship is bound to fall apart. It may hurt, but it’s how it is.
Everybody changes with time, as they grow older and they broaden their horizons. And in this growing up period we face many disappointments when it comes to our friends. We realize that the people we considered our friends, don’t really see us the same way. We realize that there are people who simply are bad for us and we need to cut them loose. These are the kind of friends that we don’t need or want in our life.
Trying to keep a friendship alive when it’s obviously withered away is pointless. Your time will be better spent on anything else and your efforts will be more appreciated elsewhere. Sometimes, no matter how much it hurts, it’s better to accept the truth and move on than to hold on to the things that don’t exist anymore. That’s why sometimes losing a friend can be a good thing, if that friend was already lost. Sometimes it’s better to have 2 friends that matter, than to have 20 that don’t.
