How would you react if your boyfriend asked you out of the blue, “Have you put on weight?” Even if he’s hit the mark, reflexively getting angry and yelling “Shut up!” will probably create bad feeling between you. However, with the right reaction, you can get him to think “She’s cute no matter what her weight is!” We conducted a questionnaire among guys, and in this article we introduce the survey results and talk about “9 ways to react if your boyfriend points out you’ve put on weight.”
1. Say, “You got me!” and laugh innocently
Cheerfully and honestly acknowledge the fact that you’ve put on weight. “If she laughed like it was a joke, I’d have to laugh too.” If you can laugh it off with your boyfriend, he’ll feel more affectionate toward you. If nothing else, it will create a better mood between the two of you than if you angrily yell, “Don’t say that!”
2. Tell him it’s because you’re so happy together
Point out the happy circumstances—you’re “putting on weight from the good life”— and let the remark go. If you tell your boyfriend it’s because you’re happy, it will be hard for him to be judgmental. “If she said, ‘It’s because when I’m with you, everything tastes great!’ then I wouldn’t mind how much weight she put on!” But watch out—if you haven’t seen your boyfriend for a while and you’ve gained weight, this one won’t fly.
3. Say it’s because of your age: “It’s just a growth spurt.”
Explain that for a lot of young girls, there’s a certain age or body type that makes it easy to put on weight. “If she said, ‘It’s a growth spurt,’ I would probably think it was quite healthy, and it wouldn’t bother me.” If you blame your age, you may be able to get him to understand that “she’ll put on weight even when eating the usual amount.” You’ll make an even better impression if you show a good attitude toward improvement by saying something like, “I’ll try doing some exercise.”
4. Give him a seasonal excuse: “But it’s been cold recently!”
Jokingly give him an unlikely excuse, like, “It’s easier to put on weight when it’s cold.” Use this when you want to appeal to his sense of humor. “Blaming the season is probably barking up the wrong tree, but if she said it to me deliberately I’d have to laugh.” Stock up on seasonal jokes—“I ate too much to combat the summer heat,” “I have more of an appetite in autumn”—and you’ll never be without an excuse.
5. Point out the merits: “My chest is bigger too.”
By saying this, you can get him to realize that there are advantages to putting on weight. “It’s not like I have a thing for huge breasts, but if my girlfriend was happy with it I’d think it was cute.” Who would be disappointed if their girlfriend told them, “My chest has grown”? But if you’re not confident that this one will work with him, you may want to consider saying something else instead.