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5 Ways to Prevent Your Long-Distance Boyfriend from Cheating

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It’s quite challenging, if not daunting, to maintain a happy long-distance relationship. In addition to the loneliness you feel, you may worry about whether or not your boyfriend is being faithful to you. With a new job or a new school, the risk of going “long distance” is real, and can happen to any of us. If you can eliminate the temptation to cheat, a long-distance relationship shouldn’t be a deal breaker. Today, we gathered men who are currently in long-distance relationships and asked them to share their opinions on what girlfriends can do that will dissuade them from cheating..

1. You never miss “good morning” and “good night” messages.

When you can’t see each other face to face, email or text messages become the next best thing. Use them to your advantage and exchange personal messages as often as possible. By greeting him “good morning” and “good night”, you will give him a sense of stability and reaffirm that you belong together. “The daily greetings remind me that we belong to each other,” a man in his early 30s tells us. Becoming a part of his daily routine will give you both a sense of closeness, even when you are physically apart. It will also help you pick up on changes to his behavior early enough that you can nip any unwelcoming feelings in the bud.

2. Be honest and straightforward.


“I’m so happy you called me.” It’s a simple statement, but to him, it confirms that your feeling towards him have not faded away. A flirtation with women other than you can start when he feels he’s deprived of affection from his own girlfriend. For that reason, it wouldn’t hurt to be extra-affectionate on the phone. “Because I can’t see her face, I feel better if she tells me that she’s happy and glad to be with me,” confesses a man in his 20s. It’s difficult to convey even the simplest message via email or text. Being straightforward and honest with your feelings is the easiest way to speak to his heart.

3. Be on the lookout for the female names that he mentions often.


Because you don’t actually get to see him when you talk to him on the phone, you may want to pay extra attention to names that he drops frequently during conversation. “I’m not cheating, but I may have mentioned something about this woman that I’m fond of once or twice,” confesses a man in his late teens. If he mentions the same name over and over during the course of your conversation, it’s highly likely that he’s more or less interested in her. It’s best to face any unhealthy thoughts straight on. If you notice a name that frequently crops up in his conversation, tell him that she sounds like a fun person and that you’d love to meet her. Let him sweat a little bit.

4. Don’t ask him if he’s cheating on you.


It’s understandable that you’d be concerned about him cheating on you, but when has it ever been a good idea to ask the same question over and over, which you know will not be answered directly? “She’s always doubting me and I’m starting to wonder if she’ll ever trust me,” admits a man in his 20s. Asking him if he’s cheating can have an adverse effect. You should consider the question as a last resort, and only if you feel your relationship is failing. Even if you’re dying to ask him the question, take a deep breath and tell him, “I’m so fortunate that I don’t have to worry about you ever cheating on me.” He may start to think that he’d be daft to betray such a wonderful girlfriend. It’s reverse-psychology.

5. Don’t force him to make a commitment.


Because you’re overwhelmed with uncertainty over your long-distance relationship, you want to rush things and tie the knot before he has a change of heart. However, forcing him to make a commitment when he’s not ready may backfire on you. “She says she’s too worried about us living apart, but I’m not sure if that’s a good reason for getting married,” a concerned man in his early 30s tells us. In addition, bringing up the topic of marriage too frequently may be a total turn off for him, and he may get fed up and dump you for another woman. You’re not the only one feeling uncertain about the future. Things will only happen at the right time and right juncture of your life.

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