You’re not dating anyone at the moment and it seems harmless to go out on a few dates, even if you don’t like him that much.
It happens all the time. You agree to go out on a date without putting much thought into it, and eventually end up tormenting him or yourself. While the decision to go out was a casual one, there are many disadvantages that you’ll face when making such a reckless decision. Today, based on the survey responses we collected from female participants aged between their late teens and mid-20s, we’ll introduce to you some of the unforeseen traps you may stumble upon when going out with a guy you don’t even like.
1. He starts to fall deeper in love with you, and you can’t stand the pressure.
“I could tell that he was falling deeper and deeper for me, and I felt extremely guilty,” recalls a woman in her late teens. It may have been a casual fling for you, but it meant the world to him, and that weighs heavily on your shoulders. Unless you feel like you may potentialyl fall in love with him, too, don’t rush into a relationship. It’s not fair to either of you.
2. It’s not easy to pretend to be in love.
“I don’t even like him that much, and I have to act like we’re in love. It’s hard!” a confused young woman speaks out. If you date someone out of convenience, the role of girlfriend may not sit well with you. Unless you can truly enjoy being in a relationship with him, it’s better to stay single than to date someone you don’t really like just to fill the emptiness.
3. You can’t bring yourself to kiss him.
“I know in my head that I’m expected to kiss him, but my body refuses,” a woman in her 20s said, expressing her struggle. There’s no point in telling yourself that you’re his girlfriend and therefore should show more affection. Your body tells you ‘no’, so that is that. Besides, it’s not something you can overcome just by working hard at it. Before you really hurt his feelings, make up an excuse and get out of the relationship.
4. It takes time to move on when you fall in love with someone else.
“Regardless of the original intention, I am dating him, after all, so I can’t just say ‘See ya’ and move onto the next relationship,” a woman in her late teens said, voicing her frustration. Even if you don’t have anyone in mind now, there is no guarantee that you won’t find someone tomorrow—and when you do, you may feel bound to a relationship you weren’t too keen on to begin with. Unless he feels the same way about you, the break up will be messy. It’s best to stay single, rather than complicate matters.
5. You may lose a chance to find your true love.
“I ended up dating him for a few years, and all the while, I was consumed by fears that my true love was waiting for me somewhere out there,” confesses a woman in her 20s. There are many women who regret wasting their time over someone they didn’t really care for. You’re better off not detouring your life, especially if you believe in true love and knights in shining armor.