You’ve been in a relationship for a while and everything seems to be going well. Yet, he doesn’t even show a hint of the commitment needed to take the relationship to the next level. You must be getting quite frustrated. In his mind, it could be that you are a great girlfriend who is just not cut out to be a wife. Today, we gathered a group of young, single men in their late teens and 20s, and asked them to identify some of the deal-breaking characteristics you may have been displaying.
1. You look gorgeous, but you are empty inside.
“She is drop-dead-gorgeous and I love walking around the town with her in my arms, but that’s all. For my future partner, I need someone with more personality and intellect,” says a young man in his late teens, describing the definition of his future wife. You know you get a perfect 10 for looks, but he doesn’t seem to take you seriously. If this is the case, you may want to examine yourself and find the areas that suffer low scores. Don’t forget, men look for well-rounded individuals to be their partners in life.
2. You are unique, but too eccentric.
“I don’t mind going out with a woman with distinctive style. I’m sure it’ll be interesting to experience the other end of the spectrum. Still, for marriage, I want someone ordinary and predictable,” a man in his 20s explains. Just because you can offer a dramatic relationship, unlike any other he has experienced, that does not necessarily mean that you’ll make a good partner. If you tend to chase after a relationship as if you were in a romantic movie, you need to stop and be more realistic.’
3. You are a great person, but hopelessly untidy.
“She’s not a bad person, but knowing that she lives in a pigsty, there’s no way I can consider her as my future wife,” a man in his late 20s shares, speaking in terms of practicality. If you tend to turn any space into a mess, you may be considered unsuitable to become a wife and a mother. If your apartment looks like a tornado has touched down in it, it’s time to roll up your sleeves and start tidying up. There’re plenty of success stories you can read about to learn a few tips on how to tidy up and purge your mess.
4. You are cute when you pony up, but it costs too much to please you.
“It’s fun to empty my savings account once to fool around a little with someone who is eye candy, but not for the rest of my life,” a young man in his early 20s confesses. Unless he has an endless supply of cash, he has to be pretty vain to be with a woman with so many demands. If you can identify yourself as this type, bear in mind that the fun is not going to last forever.
5. You are too free-spirited when it comes to love and relationships.
“She’s free to be involved with any men she desires, but if she wants to be in a committed relationship, she needs to settle down. If she can’t do that, I won’t consider her even as a long-term girlfriend, let alone a wife,” a man in his late 20s says, pointing out the obvious. For better or for worse, if you are passionate and free-spirited, you may lose your chance to settle down as a wife. Despite what happened in the past, if you’re intending to focus on one relationship, make sure he knows how committed you are.
