You’ve been exchanging messages with him on a daily basis, but all of a sudden, he stops responding to your texts. It’s confusing, if not outright troubling. What happened? The questions and a nagging feeling won’t leave your mind. Today, we asked young men aged between their late teens and late 20s to share the real reasons why they don’t respond to messages.
1. He wanted you to worry a little bit.
“I wanted her to think something happened. I just needed a little more attention from her, that’s all,” confesses a young man in his late teens. As childish as it may sound, some men want to monopolize your attention, and they accomplish this by not responding to your texts. If he stops communicating with you all of a sudden, your first reaction should be to send him a concerned message, regardless of whether you have a crush on him.
2. He can’t keep up with your speed.
“Some women send messages 24/7 when there’s nothing to say. In that case, I intentionally delay my response just to slow her down,” explains a man in his early 20s. If you’re the type to put all of your thoughts into texts, he may be sending you the signal to slow down a bit. If he starts to get sluggish in responding to your texts, try to match his speed, and don’t overwhelm him by a flood of messages.
3. He wanted to make you jealous by hinting that there’s another woman.
“I want her to think that I may have someone else in my life. I’m planting a little seed of jealousy in order to see her reaction,” a man with a devilish smile tells us. He thinks it’s all a part of the game, making you jealous. If you’re pretty certain that he’s interested in you, there’s a good chance he’s also watching how you react to his sudden silence.
4. The message is marked as “Read”, so he didn’t think it was necessary to respond.
“Unless she’s wanting a response from me, I don’t necessarily reply to her texts,” says a man in his late 20s, justifying his lack of communication. In some cases, men consider some messages as not needing any comment or response. Unlike women, many men don’t see the need to react to every single comment you make. If this is the case with your guy, even when he doesn’t respond to your messages right away, there’s no need to panic.
5. He tried to go along with it, but in reality, he’s not good at texting.
“When there’s nothing pertinent to discuss, I don’t understand why we have to be in constant contact. It gets to be too much after a while,” complains a man in his late 20s. More than a fair share of men finds texting too laborious, especially those who do not communicate well through written words. If you sense that he’s having a difficult time expressing himself via text, back off a little bit. Reduce the number of messages and see how he responds.
