I Fell In Love Via Text — And We’re Still Together

Love letters are romantic. Texting? Not so much. It’s shallow, impersonal, and to most women, aminefield when it comes to dating — yet somehow, 20,000 text messages later, I fell in love with a stranger I met through a dating site, living on the other side of the country, and we’ve been together ever since. Here’s how it happened:

iStock_000073550565_Small-400x4001. I BELIEVED IN THE POWER OF WORDS. Maybe it was due to my innate shyness, struggles with anxiety, or the fact that writing comes naturally to me, but for whatever reason, Internet communication was the medium I felt most comfortable using when building a budding relationship. Texting allowed me the freedom to express things I’d have trouble expressing in person. Plus, phone calls make me break out into a cold sweat.

2. TALKING WAS EFFORTLESS. I was in the process of making big changes: new city, new career, new dreams. Texting allowed me to get to know someone on a deeper level without interfering with other parts of my hectic life. I could leisurely get to know someone at my own pace.

3. HE PUT ME AT EASE. Too many people treat texting like a Q&A session or a job interview, but this was different. Whether we were spilling our guts or sending random poo emojis to each other, we were building the foundation of our relationship. When you have “text chemistry” with someone, the conversation feels natural.

4. HE MADE ME FEEL SAFE, SO I WAS LESS INHIBITED. There was the illusion that we both believed and didn’t believe, that if either of us wanted to end it, we could both continue on with our lives as if it had never happened. With one press of a button, our entire history could be deleted.

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